Happy weekend! I know weekends can be dreadful for the newly separated or divorced. After I left my husband and moved back home with my mom and brother, I felt like such a loser on Saturday nights. My brother had friends over all the time and I buried myself in work behind the comfort of my locked bedroom door.
Soon, I made new friends with girls who supported my divorce and launched fun projects including an Internet TV show to occupy my time.
Keeping busy and going after my dreams really got me through that difficult time in my life.
Shortly after I moved back home, I lost my job. So I had nothing but time on my hands to have mini nervous breakdowns. Insomnia struck and I thought I was going to lose my mind. Thankfully, I eventually made peace with my conscious and got to sleep.
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On another note, I started a NEW TWITTER account- @DivorceIn20s just for this book! I'll still be tweeting from my personal account, @HelloJoelleLisa, too.
Stay strong, smile often!
Calling all NJ/ NYC area girls! We're going to have a meet-up on Saturday, March 10th at 1:00 p.m. in Hoboken, NJ. We'll be meeting at Oddfellows, which is directly across the street from the PATH. If you are in the area and would like to attend, let me know so I can keep you in the loop. I can't wait to meet everyone!
Dish with other Divorcées
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Trash the Dress Participant Quote:
"Life as a divorced 20-something is awesome. A fabulous fresh start with endless possibilities!" -Alyssa
"I think it is time I let you go, and that is so hard to do because some part of me will be in love with you for the rest of my life, but the daydreaming, the running in place .. it's not healthy. So this is me, cutting the cord. This is me, doing what I should have done eight months ago ... saying goodbye."
(Remember that TV show?!)
Chloe, a 26-year-old missionary from Texas who was married at 22 and divorced by 25 says her divorce anthem is “Billy Joel’s ‘Don’t Forget Your Second Wind.’”
Aimee Allen's "On Vacation" music video is an adorable celebration of her breakup with Unwritten Law frontman Scott Russo. I love her and think you will, too!
When her album, A Little Happiness, was released in 2010, I asked Aimee her breakup advice. Watch what she told me.
-Review by Karen
Having already decided to separate, I struggled to understand exactly what went wrong with my marriage. Many books talked about reconciliation, coping, etc, but there was only one book that addressed how a relationship breaks down: Uncoupling: Turning Points in Intimate Relationships by Diane Vaughan.
Using her insight gained by interviewing people who have "uncoupled," her book listed the necessary steps of separation that every relationship must go through in order to uncouple. It always starts with one party (the initiator) having a secret awareness that something is wrong with the relationship, and ends with the other party (the partner) finally accepting that the relationship is unsavable and thus disengaging from it.
The book elaborates and explains on each stage of the separation. Reading through the chapters was like re-living my marriage once more, but with a counselor identifying insignificant events that were turning points in the relationship, showing me that the random decisions that I made actually have deeper meaning and context, and that the seeds of separation were sown far earlier than I had realized.
For anyone who wishes to make the most of a failed relationship, I highly recommend this book.
Has a book or movie helped you through your divorce? Share with the rest of us! Email review to TrashTheDressBook@gmail.com.