Hi ladies! Welcome to the official Trash the Dress newsletter, a forum for me to dish on divorce in your twenties and provide the 411 on what I'm up to.
Whether you've decided to share your personal divorce story in the book or not, I welcome you to this support group.
You may recall that during the interview process for the book, I asked you the theme song of your divorce. Select responses have been featured in my latest Huffington Post Divorce blog, Songs to Celebrate Divorce in your Twenties.
While I would have loved to post all your songs, editorial space was limited. However, I will be posting all responses on my website, TrashTheDressBook.com in the future.
One of the divorce anthems I chose was the song "Thinkin' Bout You" by Hanson. Though I spent my teenage years obsessed with the Backstreet Boys (<3 AJ!), my friends converted me to a Hanson fan a few years ago and I've never looked back. Sorta like my divorce! Out with the old, in with the new. Anyway, I saw Hanson in concert again this week and they are just amazing. I've had the privilege to interview them before and they are also extremely nice (and hot!). I highly suggest you get to a show if you have the opportunity. If all you know is "MMM Bop" you're ears are missing out, ladies!
On the book front, I have officially closed submissions for stories. This was a hard decision to make because I receive inspiring emails every day. However, it's time for me to get to the nitty gritty details and dive into all your stories, so expect to hear from me as I work through them.
If you've recently contacted me, I may send you a mini interview to learn more about your story. I'd like to keep you on file so I can contact you as a source for guest blogs or features on my websites. So just because I can't include you in the book doesn't mean you can't participate in the fun!
I'm really excited about this project and want to thank you all for being a part of it. No one really understands what divorce in your twenties is like unless they've been through it and I believe that is why this group is so important.
Divorce is ugly, but divorce in your twenties can end up being the most beautiful thing to happen to you!
Stay strong, smile often!
Dish with other Divorcées
Connect with me and Trash the Dress participants:
Trash the Dress Participant Quote:
"I won't lie and say that being a 29 year-old divorcée is always a day at the beach. But I am getting a honest to goodness second chance at happiness. I get to experience the life my friends lived in their early 20s. And thank goodness this happened before children. My boobs are still locked and loaded in the optimal position. I still have the energy to stay up late partying, and I have a full time job to help me afford it. I've significantly trimmed the social fat, and now have a core group of friends who I would lay down in traffic for, and they would do the same for me. I've actually found myself walking down the street, unconsciously listing things in my head I'm thankful for. And all of the above leads me to one prevailing conclusion: this divorce is the most important and best thing to happen to me this third decade of my life." -Lily
Judge me however you'd like (I already confessed I love Hanson, so I'm sure it can't get much worse for some of you! hehe), but I LOVE Tori Spelling. She's living my dream life: wife, mother, entreprenuer, business owner and author. Like me, Tori loves planning events, rescues dogs, has OCD and goes to spiritual healers. I'll even admit I'm jealous of her pet pigs and goats. I've had Tori's series of books collecting dust on my shelf and have finally taken the time to start reading. In her first book, sTORI Telling, Tori divulges details of her first marriage and why it ended in divorce. Obviously, now I think we're soul mate BFFs. But seriously, I think you'll enjoy reading this, as well. Tori discusses how the wedding planning distracted her from the relationship, realizes she was never really in love with her first husband, tells how her friends thought they were never a match in the first place and how she could never be herself with him. Tori also talks about why she got married: he made her happy, he was good to her, she loved his family and they supported each other. But something just wasn't "right." I could certainly relate! Let me know if you read this book. I'd love to share thoughts!